When we try something new in front of other people, we tend to worry about judgment or other negative consequences. And we tend to feel awkward because the experience between us is novel and unpracticed. But the feeling of awkwardness doesn’t mean we actually are awkward (thankfully!). But feeling awkward typically goes hand in hand with feeling vulnerable.
We are often unaware that feeling awkward and taking emotional risks in front of other people eases them.
Why? Because vulnerability cues other people that your communication is authentic and sincere. It also cues other people that they too could be awkward, vulnerable, and authentic in safety. That they too can try something new in front of others.
No one can authentically connect with others without some vulnerability. If you have a hard time believing this, consider whether you have ever felt safely connected to someone who never displayed at least some vulnerability with you.
So even when it might feel initially awkward for you, it might be time to reframe vulnerability and awkwardness as the necessary starter ingredients for authentic connection.